Therapy to change how you relate to the world
While it can be helpful to talk about our lives, it is easy to continue using our heads to avoid the discomfort that arises in our present experience. Rather than talking about it over and over, I encourage an experiential approach to understanding your life, to include your emotions, your thoughts, and your beliefs about the world as it happens inside and out.
it's not about what's happening ``out there``. It's about what's happening ``in here``. For every external event that arises outside of our own mind and body, there is a dependent internal response within our mind-body. Most of our habitual patterns are an attempt to remove or alter the world around us, as we think this will remove the discomfort that arises within. We have within us the ultimate power to change how we relate to what happens around us. The key to this change begins with a sense of mastery of our own body.
Mindfulness is the technique we use to take a good look at the way things really are. It is developing the skill to watch our own repeated patterns of thoughts and fantasies about how things are supposed to be, and then being truthful about how life actually is. Mindfulness is the courage to be with this realization that our lives aren't what we want them to be, and the fearlessness to live more fully in all that we are, including all the beauty and pain.
Sometimes coming to therapy is the easiest thing you’ve done in a long time. Yet for some, it can be a difficult choice to make. There is a common misunderstanding in our society that we are supposed to be fully-grown, independent, infinitely-capable people that don’t ask for help. That we are all-powerful, and that feelings, emotions, and otherwise self-knowledge is a waste of time. And yet here we are. When we look into our own hearts, we find a burning desire to be vulnerable, to be seen fully, in all that we are, and to rediscover our own basic goodness and well-being.
Another common misunderstanding we all share is that the best way to live is to avoid pain and just get comfortable. We even go to the extreme of thinking there is a version of life that doesn’t have any pain or discomfort at all. While I can’t help with any of that, I can help you to live with more ease, acceptance, and resilience in moments of difficulty.
In therapy, I can help you change the way you relate to your life and those around you.